In the past there were no rules for families about buying gifts. Everyone was shopping for others and gifts were exchanged at the Christmas family gathering. It is common today for people to take a name off a hat or point to someone in order to buy it.
Or the family creates a kind of “white elephant” exchange instead of allowing relatives to shop for certain people. So what many families need is a fun way to exchange gifts, be it for a specific person or gifts for white elephants. They can be great fun naming relatives.
Presents can be hidden and information about the location of the presents can be given. So when you arrive at Aunt Martha's gift with your gift, you might want to put her gift in the kitchen cupboard. Here you can then create a number of folders.
You could say, "Cinnamon is lurking here" or "Cinnamon is the center of the house, but it's not always the center of the house." Clues can be silly or fatal. They can be designed so that you know where to find a gift in minutes, or they can be designed in such a way that a series of clues is needed in order to give someone the right to receive their gift.
If the group is small or the house is particularly large and the attendees have time, you can still hunt to the next with more than one reward and tip until the gift is finally ready.
Why should children have so much fun? Come up with fun gift ideas for adults. It doesn't matter whether the family regularly reads their name and exchanges gifts or not, you can have family fun exchanging gifts with white elephants.
How about exchanging gifts on the theme of white elephants? If your family is fishing, this can be a topic for you. Everyone should bring a fishing gift (this can be anything from exercise equipment to wall-mounted basses).
This can be a portable electronic fishing game or a themed board game. With this in mind, you can create a "cooking" wallet for white elephants or a camping-themed gift market.
Again, it's more about family satisfaction than anything else. Then make some fun games for yourself. Perhaps they all draw a number and choose their gifts from the crowd in the middle based on their number. The game can start like this, but then people steal another gift if they want.
You can ask the gift recipient to shake the gift, examine the gift, and evaluate its contents before opening it. If they're right, they can "steal" another gift, but if they make a mistake they'll keep it.
By playing blackjack and dictating that people not get their gift and opening it until they win a deck of cards, you are adding to the stupid agent (ideally something pretty fast-paced like poker or rummy).
The idea of sharing family gifts should be enjoying the company of others and getting in the Christmas spirit. As long as it's fun and addicting, there's no reason adult family members shouldn't enjoy fun gift-swapping games like kids do.